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Module 7: On Appreciation

Appreciation without any reason feels deeply relaxed, open, soft, and healthy. Appreciation, which is not an appreciation of anything particular, brings a sense of self as perfectly loved and perfectly lovable. Such uncaused appreciation brings a feeling of this moment being perfect as it is. This moment is perfectly good at being exactly what it is. Because unconditioned appreciation has no cause, it can never really be lost. Resting in such appreciation dissolves any sense of being under-appreciated, undeserving of love, and of having to deserve or bargain for love. It is the simple and natural flow of unconditional love.

Khalil Gibran – On Friendship
Your friend is your needs answered.
He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving.
And he is your board and your fireside.
For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace.

When your friend speaks his mind you fear not the ‘nay’ in your own mind, nor do you withhold the ‘ay.’
And when he is silent your heart ceases not to listen to his heart;
For without words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unacclaimed.
When you part from your friend, you grieve not;
For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.
And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit.
For love that seeks aught but the disclosure of its own mystery is not love but a net cast forth: and only the unprofitable is caught.

And let your best be for your friend.
If he must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood also.
For what is your friend that you should seek him with hours to kill?
Seek him always with hours to live.
For it is his to fill your need, but not your emptiness.
And in the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures.
For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.